About Toby

Our son Toby died in February 2006, one week after his first birthday.   

At that time I knew very little about SIDS and Kids. Like many people I was aware of Red Nose Day, but not much more.

My understanding was that SIDS and Kids was a research and support organisation solely focused on Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.

Toby did not die from SIDS. It was a simple, almost unbelievable accident that could happen in any home, at any time and unpreventable. There were no warning signs, no illness to treat and no-one to blame.

Despite my wife and I having large and supportive families, we were lost. Lost in our grief, lost in how to support each other and lost how to explain to Toby’s 3 ½ year old big brother, what had happened to his best mate.

The impact of a child’s death is staggering. Simply getting through each day is struggle enough, without the added pressure of living. Trying to return to “normal” life again sometimes seems an impossible challenge. Simple things we take for granted, such as going to work or doing the weekly shopping, become the most incredibly difficult tasks.

SIDS and Kids came to our rescue. They have provided us with hope for the future. This hope comes through their grief counseling, support groups and literature for all those affected by Toby’s tragic death. These services have been available for not only my wife Penny, my son and I, but also to Toby’s grandparents, uncles, aunties and cousins and are provided free of charge

As we continue the long journey of healing, we ask you to help us provide hope to others who tragically will find themselves in similar circumstances.

By supporting the Toby McCredie Golf day, your contribution will go directly to helping SIDS and Kids continue to provide this invaluable service.